BackPost Valentines Day: Keeping the Love Alive
Keeping your sexual relationship smooth-sailing sometimes requires a litte bit of hard work & I've go a few tips that will surely keep the fire burning!
Like many other holidays, there is one specific day set aside for celebrating something special. As for Valentines Day, we all know it is for the celebration of love. And during this day, everyone goes out of their way to show their love for their significant other by doing something extraordinary, or things they don't usually do everyday. Perhaps, cooking breakfast for the apple of your eye, sending flowers, going on a date and - of course - performing better in bed.
Everything stays magical until the next day – when everything goes back to normal. No specially-prepared breakfast, no flowers, no date, and maybe just plain, old, boring sex. You then find yourself going on a trip down memory lane when sex was frequent, hot and exciting.
But it doesn't have to be that way, you know? The common notion that sex is best only when the relationship is new is definitely WRONG.
Many couples find sex being so much more interesting after 4 to 5 years of being together. So if you thought you've had the best sex of your life after rounds of mind-blowing romps with your lover, you'll be amazed to find that after 5 years, you can still say that great sex is, in fact, becoming greater.
Still not convinced? Well, I'll let you in on a little secret.
Familiarity. That's the key. By the time you reach this far into your relationship, you become more familiar with each other's bodies. You're already attuned to your lover's likes and dislikes in bed, thus you both become confident with sex than you've ever been.
But of course, keeping your sexual relationship smooth-sailing requires a little bit more of hard work and I've got a few tips that will surely keep the fire burning!
Be confident with your body. One of the keys to great sex is feeling free to let go of yourself. You can only manage to do this by liking your body and being confident with it. Let go of your insecurities and stop worrying. Just think about this - your partner must really love your body, enough to keep wanting to have sex with you after you've gained a few pounds or even when your skin has sagged a little.
Show appreciation. Love is not always about sunshine and rainbows, they say. Relationships are not only fueled by sex and passion. It also requires a huge amount of affection and constant appreciation of each other. Saying something nice to your partner everyday makes them feel better about themselves. It reboots your relationship by taking you back to when you first fell in love.
Plan your sexy time. Many couples lose interest with their sex lives and, eventually, with each other because they could hardly find time for a hanky panky. Infrequency of intimate encounters makes couples distant and unwanted. Frequent sex, on the other hand, makes couples feel desirable. So make time for it. Set an alarm! Write it on a post-it on the fridge if you have to! I know I'm making it look like just a regular, meaningless task, but really, it is an essential part of every relationship so you and your partner should take time out of your busy schedules to make slow, passionate la-la-love!
Touch. It's the most relieving and relaxing feeling especially after a hard day's work. It also awakens a certain craving and desire just by a slight squeeze or a flick of a finger. Relax. Give in to your partner's touch. Better yet, start with a little body massage. Some rubbing and stroking of your erogenous zones is one heck of a way to get you into the mood.
Have some bedroom adventure. Experiment! Try new positions. Talk dirty. What better way to keep sex exciting than constantly making it unpredictable? Do some role plays. Use some toysto add some erotic vibe! There are a bunch of ways to keep your sex life interesting. Just get to know yourself more and expand your imagination!